Tie Your Shoes Slowly
Short Advice on How Not to Waste Your Life
I’ve always been driven by the deep desire to not waste my life. That feeling has aided me in certain ways, pushed me to consider and reconsider what is most important. But it’s also made me rush. I’ve always gone fast because, deep down inside, I’ve believed that the next thing will be better than this thing. I’ve rushed to get there, lest I waste my life. I’ve been an optimistic futurist and a pessimistic present-ist.
This is a part of who I am, and I see some benefit in considering the things I spend my life on, but I’m inspired to reframe and broaden what this phrase means to me. Instead of just striving forward, I want to notice my now — choosing to live aware of, and grateful for, my life, lest I waste it.
I’ve been an optimistic futurist and a pessimistic present-ist.
This may not be new for you, it probably isn’t. But maybe you haven’t thought about this today. Maybe like me, you’re quick to forget that what you call here, now, and today is an astonishing opportunity to see, taste, touch, smell, and hear the beautiful miracle of life — something so precious that we have not yet found evidence of it anywhere but right where we are.
“There’s only one reason why you’re not experiencing bliss at this present moment, and it’s because you’re thinking or focusing on what you don’t have… But, right now you have everything you need to be in bliss.”
— Anthony de Mello
We all have the same amount of time each day, the difference is not only in what we do with it, but how we pay attention to it. We overlook the everyday things in an angst-ridden search for more. Is it not insane to go hungry by ignoring today’s plate of food as we dream of tomorrow’s? Is it not waste?
We all have the same amount of time each day, the difference is not only in what we do with it, but how we pay attention to it.
I don’t know on which day you’ll read this, but I know one thing: it’s right now. So, don’t waste today by overlooking the little things for the big things, the in-between for the interesting bits. And next time you put on your shoes, don’t rush; stop, breathe, and tie them slowly. I’ll try to do the same.
That’s day 12 of my 30-day writing project. I hope you’re safe and well.